Thursday, June 26, 2008
The child grows up and may even excel in his chosen field. He'll rely on others fto tell him how he should feel.
Miller makes some assumptions I don't agree with, saying that self-abuse and body piercing are results of repressed sexual abuse by the father.
But I agree with her fundamental point, that every child needs to be seen as an emotional being from birth. A child is not a projection of the parent's strengths, weaknesses, sucesses or failures, an emotional support, a chance for the parent to ry to get her life right "this time." A child is an independent mind.
And I am realizing how damn hard it is to raise a child without screwing him or her up for life.